I used to love cheesy romantic comedies, boy meets girl stories, stories about the relationship between the two (yes, two) genders. Now that I think back on the general attitudes of the female protagonists in these stories, however, they make me want to hurl.
Female protagonists in romantic media generally follow the same pattern. They fall in love with the guy, everything is going great, and then…well, I’m not sure. Something unrealistic happens, like he makes an off-handed comment that generates more offense than would be warranted, or things “get weird” and now their love life is on hold for a good four months while the girl…angrily ignores the guy but gets jealous when she sees him with another girl (“But we’re not involved anymore so it doesn’t matter, I don’t care if you go after him one bit”) and takes it out on him, yells at him when he tries to make amends and he insists that “I’ve still loved you all this time” even though she regrets it later and is in a mood for a couple of more weeks…until, something something, dramatic moment, he kisses her and now it’s all okay. Then rinse and repeat.
This is such a BORING storyline! If you have to create unnecessary drama, like continuous break-ups and make-ups, just to make a story work and keep it interesting, then I’m sorry, but the story never worked to begin with. Why can’t we see more relationships where sure, the guy and the girl fight, but there’s never a question of whether they will break up or not because they’ve firmly decided from the start to be together through it all? Why is quiet enjoyment of one another’s company, going through life’s natural struggles as partners rather than enemies, not enough for a decent story? Why does there always have to be a battle? Why are all these female protags so inconsistent with their feelings that they can leave a guy, try dating someone else for a while but somehow “still love him after all this time, and there’s no way I’m letting him get married to someone else because obviously we are destined to be together!” Yeah, right.
I would consider that this doesn’t happen in every story, but it’s enough to create a culture out of it. A culture where guys just have to put up with the girl they love’s crap because she’s supposed to be “empowered,” and how dare you try to tie her down or give her your opinion. A culture where girls don’t consider the guy’s feelings, jump to conclusions all of the time and base all of their actions on their emotions. I get it, women are the more sensitive gender, but that doesn’t mean we have to be the less responsible one, too.
I gotta tell you, if I have to hear about one more story where a girl and a guy get married after years of hit-and-misses, arguments and breakups that are never addressed and apologized for then I am going to flip!